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| Great little site here. I'm 44 and my husband just pulled the plug on our almost 8 year marriage. I left the states to move here to New Zealand to be with him. I brought my daughter with me (she was 12 then and is now almost 20 and lives on her own). I found out he wanted out while I was on holiday in the states back in July/early August. In a phone call on August 3rd, he told me he met someone else and that they were fully, intimately involved. But he said he felt we could work things out between us. He's been reading a great deal and feels his freedom is of utmost importance; I don't disagree. However, the things he was emailing me caused a great deal of confusion and gave me hope. Well, after returning here to New Zealand, I have discovered that there really is no hope after all. He wanted me to move out of our place and get my own. He is staying in our rented home with his two middle teenagers.
It has felt so weird to say goodbye to him and to the kids. It's sad to know he is, this very weekend, in another town, wrapped in the arms of another after all the promises of "Peggy is the only girl for me" and "I'll be beside you cheering you on"... and things of that nature. It's been a week a month I did not expect to live. I have thought more than once, "I just want out" - but I don't think I'll hurt myself.
I'm torn between staying here in this apartment and heading back to the U.S. - but my only child, my daughter, lives here with her partner. I don't want to be that far from her. Yet, the kids is the only real reason I have to stay. And seeing his children (even though they have been my stepchildren for eight years), is really hard. Knowing that we were "family" and now we're not. I feel a bit like a discarded old slipper, which has not mate.
I cry alot. Deep, raw pain I can hardly bear. It's gotten so bad at times that I start hitting myself in the face and yelling "Stop it! He doesn't want you!" - or hitting myself on the head to "snap myself out of it" so-to-speak". Maybe not such a good idea...but it does help me snap out of that deep anguish which I feel will completely swallow me if it goes on.
Not sure why I am writing all this, except that writing is my release. It puts things out there where I can see them from a slightly different perspective.
As a side note (I suppose) - the man who was my husband just a few short weeks ago has been very kind to me. We worked from home together so I have no income of my own. He has been kind enough to arrange this apartment (which his brother and his business partner own together) - and agreed to pay the rent until I can find a job and get on my feet financially. I have been in the apartment just under a week. My ex also gave me some money to get started with groceries and such. He even bought me some steaks to put in my fridge. It seems like he's been very anxious to just help me get on with so he can be rid of me. That's a hard pill to swallow.
On the other hand, I can't blame him. I was suicidal about 2 months ago. I just reached the end of my ability to cope and we ended up in a late night session with our marriage counselor we'd been seeing for 3 months. At that time, I told my ex how I fully appreciated if he wanted his freedom from a sick wife.
Now he's taken it and I work to re-create who I am.
We are both free and single - one by choice, the other by force.
I bought myself some pretty purple flowering plants yesterday. And some fresh herbs, though I don't see myself cooking very much anymore. How do you cook for one? |
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| Date/time : 28/08/09 05:21:10 |
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Wow, here I thought I may be the only 44 yr. old who was shoved under the 'i've met another and am in-love fresh and new' bus. My now ex-wife of 16 yrs. has our three kiddos in another state. The deep pain I experienced being near her and the kids needed some distance. The thought of the kids with their 'new' dad breaks my already immature heart daily...hell, minute by minute at times. For me it was absolutley final April 28, 2009.
I am really not the best at giving advice on how to handle these profound feelings. I am still negotiaing these turbulent waters myself..(and deep water scares the hell out of me....figures). I believe that if another were to share her time and life with me I know what not to do...Take her for granted.
Hang in there u r not alone... |
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Hi there Billy, I completely understand the reference to deep, turbulent waters and how they can rage, tossing the mind and emotions about. Sometimes we just need to lay on our backs and float, eyes to the heavens. When our strength returns, we may take a few more strokes toward shore. Today I'm going to write out some goals and descriptions of what I really want my life to be like in a month, 3 months, 6 months, and a year. Then I'm going to work backwards and fill in the gaps and steps needed to achieve those goals. I've never been all that good at goal setting; I'm a "live in the now" kind of person (maybe to my detriment) and take things as they come. I need to stop doing that, it gives my personal power away. I discovered, a day or two before I learned my husband had left me, that "Life does not happen upon us; we happen upon life" - in other words, we make our lives what they are. And we can, therefore, change what we don't like about it. I wish you well in your journey. Please feel free to stop in anytime for a visit. |
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