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| Ready for the divorce, but................. |
| I'm ready to end my second marriage, both wives cheated, but filing fees here in Oklahoma are almost $500! It's hard to believe we have the highest divorce rate in the country. Her dad recently died leaving the house we were buying from him free and clear. This may sound like I'm being greedy. But, I was making the payments while she basically handed her paychecks over to her "adult" children. I'm over this, except for the paper work, and want to move on with my life. I am so ready to meet someone else. I'm hoping to find someone who can be a friend first and then, if we click, go from there. I would enjoy doing just about anything with the right person. I love kids and even though it may not seem practical at myage, I wouldn't mind having another one. I worked so much I never got to spend time with the two I have. They're grown now with kids of their own. So, if THAT didn't scare you off, and you're interested, let me know. |
| By : Kerry : Male |
| Date/time : 13/01/10 11:17:21 |
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Leah |
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Kerry you are getting ready to go through your 2nd divorce and you want to jump into another relationship already. Why not take a breather and just do things that interest you to allow your self to heal. Sounds as if you are a little afraid of being alone and on your own. I bet you would feel better and find someone better suited for you if you would take the time to heal and get to know yourself. I do wish you the best. |
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13/01/10 19:53:50 |
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Java |
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In our Divorce Care group this was mentioned as a no no as it wasn't fair to bring baggage into a previous relationship. A rebound relationship isn't recommended by the Churches.
I'm wondering if you were consulted about the finances as usually the male says nothing when everything is going well in the marriage and then has alot to say when things are going down the tubes.
This is one reason I've never gotten into a serious relationship as the male always feels he knows best but doesn't utter a word. |
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17/01/10 01:20:03 |
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Kerry, I wish you the best! If I was interested in a relationship I would run like wildfire away from any man who had not been divorced and alone at least a year. Please take some time, if you can, to do whatever it is your spirit needs you to! At the same time, I have no judgments. If your spirit needs a woman, you will find healing in that.
Generally, though, when you do not take time to heal between relationships, it builds up and clogs up your energy and spirit. You will always have to clear this clog. It gets harder, the more relationships you don't clear. This clog can affect many things down the road.
I entered into my marriage with one relationship clog not cleared, and it affected my decision making hugely. I chose a partner who was not good for me at all. I settled because I was in so much pain. You deserve the best. Clear your pain, win your own heart, and then win a fabulous woman's heart when you are ready.
:-) |
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20/01/10 13:23:47 |
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I don't need another women. I been divorced for three months and iam happier with out her. She cheated on me. She is type likes to party. I'm not iam family person I don't drink I got 2 beautiful babies. My daughter name is kalisa and my sons name is timothy they r the ones that give me mt strength |
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04/02/10 23:32:56 |
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Take it easy Kerry - get done with the divorce 1st. I too will be getting divorced for the 2nd time around. I too found that my stbx's adult kids caused so much drama and one of them is so financially needy. Well, I decided that there is no way that I am going to support my stbx's adult kids. My stbx is the kind of man that wants to be "player" even though he is in his fifties and I'm in my thirties. I really thought that I had made a good choice in marrying this man b/c I thought he was a mature, financially secure and settled. But - Age isn't nothing but a number. Perhaps there is a divorce support group in your area, so you may want to check with some local churches... |
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10/02/10 22:10:09 |
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