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| Hi,
Please share your thoughts..how will you know if marrying him is the right thing to do?
We have been together for nearly 8 years and I have asked him several times in the past when we will marry (I sound desperate, I know...i just wanted to know. He would always evade the issue (I know..Im stupid..I should have let go a long time ago). Anyway, I left my hometown and worked in another city. It has been 1 year and 2 months since I left home. Last Christmas I went home and I opened the topic again. He said he needs to think about it..he will make his decision by January end (another bad sign). February 1st, I asked him again thru a text message and he just said, we will get married this year or next year..He also wanted to know when I will go home for good.
Now, I dont think I should marry him. I feel we have grown apart.
I dont know what to do.
Please share your thoughts
Thank you |
| By : Annie : Female |
| Date/time : 06/02/10 12:43:14 |
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Thom |
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From experience..if you don't think you should marry him..DON'T! It won't get better..and you deserve more. |
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06/02/10 16:38:16 |
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Carla |
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Talk to him openly about this. Tell him you feel you've grown apart. Then listen to what your gut tells you. |
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07/02/10 11:55:57 |
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Rachel 2009 :) |
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Personally; to me it doesn't appear that anyone in the Topic Posting even wants to get married. Maybe it is just me but I do not think this is a good sign. He is dragging his feet inregards to getting married, while he is giving you anxiety over his intentions. If I were you I would not allow this guy to use up too much of my brain energy. He doesn't appear interested. Surely you want someone who wants you and would be extremely interested in your future together. I think you already know the answer (it is in the last couple of lines in your Topic Post). Keep looking and surely someday you will find THE ONE. |
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07/02/10 23:45:24 |
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Annie |
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Hi,
Thanks Rachel, Carla and Thom.
I really appreciate your thoughts. I know that in the every end, its still me who will decide.
Im just praying that I will make the right choice.
Thanks again.
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08/02/10 14:35:18 |
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Victor |
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Do you need to be married to be happy together? It seems he is fine with not being married, can you live with the situation? If not, see if you can get him to explain why he's avoiding it (perhaps with couples counseling). Try to not to make ultimatums and don't rashly discard an otherwise good relationship. Being separated physically will make you grow apart, but it doesn't mean you should part ways. |
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19/02/10 01:29:20 |
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Kim |
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YES YOU SAID IT DESPERATE! U SOUND.WHEN DID WOMEN GET TO THIS POINT OF BEGGING!IF HE THOUGHT ANY THING OF U AND HAD THAT GUT FEELING OF BEING WITH U FOREVER U WOULD ALREADY BE HIS WIFE.U HAVE ALLOWED HIM TO DRAG U AND THE RELATIONSHIP TO FAR SO WHY WOULD HE MARRY.GET BACK INTO YOURSELF AND START BACK CIRCULAR DATING OR EVEN DATE YOURSELF,U SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE OUT OF THE GAME PLAYING AND YOU ARE MOVING ON.GOOD LUCK!!!!!! |
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25/02/10 20:11:34 |
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