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| my husband left me a few days ago, says he doesn't love me anymore and wants
to move on.he says he has a lady friend, that their just friends i don't believe this.i have benn crying for 5 days. we were married 27 years i probably
neglected him the last couple years but he did the same to me.i wanted to work on our marriage but he doesnt. i can never reach him to talk about it and this makes me more angry. plus i don't want to loose my home.it would have been better if there wasn't someone else in the picture. |
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| Date/time : 20/06/10 08:36:41 |
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Happy Camper |
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One day at a time. It has only been a few days and you are already packing the china because you think you will lose the house. SLOW down, take care of yourself. If he won't talk to you, write him a letter (eve if you don't mail it)...write his response letter to you (seems weird, but what do you want him to say,and what do you think he might say).
Take this time to arrange your life. Find copies of all important papers and make yourself a copy. Schedule all your yearly doctor's appointments and get them out of the way. Need to keep an eye on your health as I guess you aren't 20 anymore :-).
Make a list of "DO this just for me today" items and do at least one of them each day. I know, sounds new waveish (is that a word), but the stuff works. |
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22/06/10 20:20:10 |
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juliet |
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one day at a time. do things for yourself. send the kids on a playdate - close the blinds and yell, scream, cry, cuss, bang things, break things...i found it helpful. unfortunately, the pain of hopelessness and loneliness remains. But, it felt good for awhile. |
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14/07/10 17:05:23 |
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Tired Of This |
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I am Sorry this has happened to you. Two years ago my husband left me out of the blue
after 32 years. ( And no, I wasn't ignoring the signs.) He actually left me a note to say he wouldn't be back.
I don't know if it makes a difference how they leave, or if there is / or isn't someone else involved. I do know it has been the most painful, heart wrenching experience of my life. Also very scary, being uncertain
of the future. I understand how you feel.
One day at a time! Or one hour at a time! Whatever you can do is OK. Sometimes all I could do is breath, and be thankful for life giving air.
This is a huge injury! It will take time to heal and recreate a new life for yourself. You Will Be OK. Drink water. Eat, even if you don't feel like it, get nutrition into your body. Accept And Ask For Support From Family, Friends, Doctors, Clergy, etc. and Consult a Good Lawyer.
I was advised to - Wait 6-12 Months before making any big decisions. I believe this was wise.
Don't Be Afraid. You Will be OK.
It is shocking to realize how painful this process is. All the separated and divorced people walking around looking "normal", made me feel very much alone, when I really wasn't. I didn't know so many others were out there, feeling as lost and abandoned as I felt.
You Are Not Alone.
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15/07/10 06:19:41 |
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PS. The Anger. It's good that you feel angry. Just let it out. As Happy Camper says, write it out. This Really is a good way to get rid of feelings you don't need to carry around. |
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